As I read the articles I posted today, I thought about what goes on in the mind of a stalker? Have they been abused as children or anytime in their life? Were they bullied, ignored, or terrorized in anyway to make them do what they do, to others? One of the articles was about an Iraqi war veteran. He had served two terms, and was honorably discharged, but had anger from his childhood. What happened to bring that anger upon him as a kid? Abuse? He came back from Iraq, with injuries to his arms and legs.
It is obvious this man has been through some great challenges. Were they to much for his kind soul to handle? Did the people he turned to for support, blow him off, ignore him, give him a cold shoulder or could not understand the pain and suffering he felt and told him it would all be ok? If you look at the face of young children, you see a glow, smile and happiness. But after so many years of walking on earth, that face has a frown, for many.
I have compassion for stalkers, because I believe they have been terrorized and are only doing what might have been done to them, in some form. That is where we as a society can help. I think the kind of service needed for many, is not what we are doing in our mental health system these days. That is just making people numbers and handing them a pile of pills, to cover up the symptoms of anger, rage and abuse.
Being realistic about this also has to come into play, because there are many people that unfortunately are past the point of turning things around. They have been abused to much. What I have witnessed is we need to be better listeners, find better solutions, not think our advice is always right, because we really never know what anyone else experiences in their life. Each circumstance is different. We cannot categorize them, the same. May the year 2013 be a year to heal the wounded.
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